Speak up against bullying!
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It was September 11, 2022, yesterday. In the aftermath of the horrific events of 9/11/01, bullying and crimes against people of Muslim & Sikh faith and other Middle-Eastern and South Asian minorities grew exponentially.
Forces of racism and hate have become even more assertive in recent years. Bullying has become common in schools, workplaces, grocery stores, and other public places. Bullying can have a devastating effect on people, both young and old. Knowing how to guard against bullying and help someone who is a victim is essential. In this article, we will discuss some ways that you can help protect yourself or someone else from bullies.
Speak up if you see someone being a bully. It’s hard to do, but it’s essential to let the bully know that their behavior is unacceptable. You may not stop the bullying yourself, but speaking up will let the bully know that their behavior is problematic.
Stand up for yourself. Bullies are less likely to target someone who stands up for themselves.
Don’t be afraid to speak up and defend yourself. Remember that you have a right to be treated with respect.
Avoid physical fighting, which could escalate the situation and lead to further violence. When confronting the bully, use “I,” statements, e.g., “I don’t like it when you call me names. Please stop.”
Keep a record of what has happened, including dates, times, and witnesses. It will be helpful if you need to take further action.
Seek help from trusted sources.
Trusted sources can include the following: the HR department, Equal Opportunity offices, Health Workers, Social Workers, Therapists, and Religious Leaders.
They can provide support and guidance on dealing with the situation and help you take action if the bullying is severe or persists.
Bullies are looking for a reaction! Don’t give them the satisfaction of one!
Don’t engage with the bully - walk away or ignore them if you can.
Try to avoid being alone with the bully if possible. Keep your head up and avoid making eye contact. If you can’t walk away, ignore the bully and don’t engage with them.
Respond with short, one-word answers if you have to speak to them. Don’t show that the bully is getting to you – remain calm and confident.
Be an empathetic figure or friend to someone who is a victim of bullying.
Let them know you are there for them and will support them.
It takes a lot of courage to speak up about being bullied. Be a good listener. Believe them. Reassure them it’s not their fault and that they are not alone.
Suggest help from the sources discussed above and if you feel that the situation is severe enough, contact the police! Do not take bullying lightly.
Bullying is a serious issue that can have a lasting effect on those who experience it. It’s vital to be aware of the signs of bullying and know what to do if you or someone you know is in that situation. Let us get together and do all we can to take more care of each other in this society that appears to care less with each passing day.